I just decided I abhor the word “tolerance” and will NOT be teaching my children that word with regard to race, color, creed, sexuality, spirituality or religion.
WHY? It sets them up to believe THEY are the ones who should be tolerating others being different than them. THAT IS NOT the case.
It’s acceptance and social awareness, not tolerance.
I TOLERATE the noise they make in the house, I ACCEPT each of my children are completely different from one another and delight in their little personalities.
Tolerance is an ugly word in my book.
That is the way I will raise them … every person is different and special … every house has its own rules, rules become laws …
I will tell you what I’m growing INTOLERANT of … this gender-bending bull-shit that has our little kids so freaking confused about who they are, who they are allowed to be and why they are who God made them. The left is pushing an agenda … “This is the New Normal.” If you want to be normal, you need to question who you are and pick some type of new fangled orientation or gender or hell, mental illness.
I’m not going to pretend I know what it’s like to be a man trapped in a woman’s body and desire to have gender reassignment surgery, but I will tell you, I’m a man born in a woman’s body.
I’m totally fine with my mind and body not being in sync because male sensibility is all I’ve ever known and I rather like my body and have no desire to change what it looks like.
Would it have been easier my entire life to think like a woman? YES! However, I’m not one for easy. My mother used to say, “can you EVER just take the path of least resistance?” The answer to that is “no.” I can not. I don’t like taking a beaten down trail, I want to know what lies beyond the tangled vines and to blaze my own trail.
They say the number one reason for teen suicide or suicide in general is a lack of coping mechanisms. The millennial will go down hard on this one because they literally have no coping mechanism for anything. Their entires lives are a participation trophy handed down by their helicopter parents who have never pushed them out of the nest and taught them how to fly.
I am a tough love parent, I say that unapologetically. I don’t know any other way to parent than to follow the blueprint handed down to me by my parents. Do I do somethings differently than they did, of course, but by and large, I like who I am and how I turned out to it makes sense to follow their lead.
HOWEVER, I was NOT prepared for this bizarre sexual orientation and gender confusion issue the left has drummed up to capitalize on those segments of the population that have been marginalized. Part of the reason these segments have been marginalized is because they are small. However, in embracing their differences, the left has not just embraced it but attempted to normalize.
The left’s desire to portray themselves as the party of acceptance has initiated a conversation parents like myself aren’t prepared for. I don’t know how to talk to my children about the fact some believe just because God made them a boy they may “feel” like a girl or even not “feel” like either sex. Words like those below didn’t exist, for the most part, just fifteen years ago. I’ve put into italics the words/terms I’ve EVER heard of before RIGHT NOW …
Ally | A person who is not LGBTQ but shows support for LGBTQ people and promotes equality in a variety of ways.
Androgynous | Identifying and/or presenting as neither distinguishably masculine nor feminine.
Asexual | The lack of a sexual attraction or desire for other people.
Biphobia | Prejudice, fear or hatred directed toward bisexual people.
Bisexual | A person emotionally, romantically or sexually attracted to more than one sex, gender or gender identity though not necessarily simultaneously, in the same way or to the same degree.
Cisgender | A term used to describe a person whose gender identity aligns with those typically associated with the sex assigned to them at birth.
Closeted | Describes an LGBTQ person who has not disclosed their sexual orientation or gender identity.
Coming out | The process in which a person first acknowledges, accepts and appreciates their sexual orientation or gender identity and begins to share that with others.
Gay | A person who is emotionally, romantically or sexually attracted to members of the same gender.
Gender dysphoria | Clinically significant distress caused when a person’s assigned birth gender is not the same as the one with which they identify. According to the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), the term – which replaces Gender Identity Disorder – “is intended to better characterize the experiences of affected children, adolescents, and adults.”
Gender-expansive | Conveys a wider, more flexible range of gender identity and/or expression than typically associated with the binary gender system.
Gender expression | External appearance of one’s gender identity, usually expressed through behavior, clothing, haircut or voice, and which may or may not conform to socially defined behaviors and characteristics typically associated with being either masculine or feminine.
Gender-fluid | According to the Oxford English Dictionary, a person who does not identify with a single fixed gender; of or relating to a person having or expressing a fluid or unfixed gender identity.
Gender identity | One’s innermost concept of self as male, female, a blend of both or neither – how individuals perceive themselves and what they call themselves. One’s gender identity can be the same or different from their sex assigned at birth.
Gender non-conforming | A broad term referring to people who do not behave in a way that conforms to the traditional expectations of their gender, or whose gender expression does not fit neatly into a category.
Genderqueer | Genderqueer people typically reject notions of static categories of gender and embrace a fluidity of gender identity and often, though not always, sexual orientation. People who identify as “genderqueer” may see themselves as being both male and female, neither male nor female or as falling completely outside these categories.
Gender transition | The process by which some people strive to more closely align their internal knowledge of gender with its outward appearance. Some people socially transition, whereby they might begin dressing, using names and pronouns and/or be socially recognized as another gender. Others undergo physical transitions in which they modify their bodies through medical interventions.
Homophobia | The fear and hatred of or discomfort with people who are attracted to members of the same sex.
Intersex | An umbrella term used to describe a wide range of natural bodily variations. In some cases, these traits are visible at birth, and in others, they are not apparent until puberty. Some chromosomal variations of this type may not be physically apparent at all.
Lesbian | A woman who is emotionally, romantically or sexually attracted to other women.
LGBTQ | An acronym for “lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer.”
Living openly | A state in which LGBTQ people are comfortably out about their sexual orientation or gender identity – where and when it feels appropriate to them.
Non-binary | An adjective describing a person who does not identify exclusively as a man or a woman. Non-binary people may identify as being both a man and a woman, somewhere in between, or as falling completely outside these categories. While many also identify as transgender, not all non-binary people do.
Outing | Exposing someone’s lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender identity to others without their permission. Outing someone can have serious repercussions on employment, economic stability, personal safety or religious or family situations.
Pansexual | Describes someone who has the potential for emotional, romantic or sexual attraction to people of any gender though not necessarily simultaneously, in the same way or to the same degree.
Queer | A term people often use to express fluid identities and orientations. Often used interchangeably with “LGBTQ.”
Questioning | A term used to describe people who are in the process of exploring their sexual orientation or gender identity.
Same-gender loving | A term some prefer to use instead of lesbian, gay or bisexual to express attraction to and love of people of the same gender.
Sex assigned at birth | The sex (male or female) given to a child at birth, most often based on the child’s external anatomy. This is also referred to as “assigned sex at birth.”
Sexual orientation | An inherent or immutable enduring emotional, romantic or sexual attraction to other people.
Transgender | An umbrella term for people whose gender identity and/or expression is different from cultural expectations based on the sex they were assigned at birth. Being transgender does not imply any specific sexual orientation. Therefore, transgender people may identify as straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, etc.
Transphobia | The fear and hatred of, or discomfort with, transgender people.
Did you get all that? Ok, you better get started explaining all this to your ten-year olds because that is when the conversation starts. In school. In peer groups. Do we need all these terms? I can’t answer that. In creating a padded environment for small segments of society we have left the rest of the children to wonder WTF this conversation is about. Now children don’t feel “normal” if they aren’t questioning who they were born to be.
Oh, and by the way … it’s OK to be a man. It’s OK to be caucasian. It’s OK to be straight. It’s also OK to be whatever YOU are but don’t push it on me. Don’t push it on my children.
I borrowed that glossary from www.hrc.org.